Because it's what I do, I posted on Facebook about yesterday's basketball game.
My post: "The point of recreation league basketball at the 4th grade level should
be to have FUN. But when your kid ends the game in tears because a
player from the opposing team shoved her to the ground .... it's not
fun. Also, every team should be held to the same standards and rules
[and there should also be a SET of rules to follow] otherwise what's the
point? These girls on the other teams aren't learning the game, they're
only being taught to win no matter the cost. I have a problem with
I had several responses that were supportive but something someone said left me scratching my head.
In response to a comment from a parent I said: "It
just drives me crazy that these coaches are teaching the girls to be
mean - like why is that a requirement for basketball? The screaming in
other player's faces blows my mind. I mean, I know basketball can be
rough but there's "playing hard" and then there's just playing stupid."
And this was the response in part: "They have taught our girls to do that [scream in other player's faces] to distract. It's just a tactic most teams use."
Coaches are teaching players to SCREAM IN THEIR OPPONENT'S FACES as a distraction tactic? WTAF.
This is not OK in any way.
Do you see college players doing this? Do you see professional players doing this?
Since when did it become acceptable to scream in another person's face to "distract" them?
Another friend offered these gems: "A lot of parents and coaches are trying to re-live their youth through their kids. Shameful." ... and "Lord help our society. And now we have a terrible example in the white house. Ugh."
I just have to wonder when ti became OK to essentially teach our kids to bully other players on the court or the field. I get that there's smack talk in any sport but screaming in someone's face seems so .... pathetic.
If your players aren't capable of learning the proper rules of a game and playing defense (or offense) in the proper way perhaps they are better suited to something else. And if the "coaches" can't manage to teach their teams how to play by the rules then perhaps they need to do something else too.
I'm trying to teach my kids to play by the rules and respect the game and other players. Emma plays hard on the court but she would never scream in another player's face just to "distract" them. That's just unacceptable behavior.